‘divorce’ Category
Changes to Florida Alimony & Child Support Statutes
Posted by Elinor Robin on June 9th, 2010
There are some significant changes coming to the Florida statutes regarding alimony and child support. You can see the bill on this link:
Thoughts on Divorce
Posted by Elinor Robin on April 10th, 2010
I am not pro-divorce. In fact, I wish we could use pre-marital education to bring an end to divorce. However, it appears that for a variety of physical, psychological, social, and spiritual reasons that is not going to happen any time soon. So…..
When a marriage is dead, divorce can bring about a life altering transformation that propels a man or woman (a) through an assessment process and (b) into a re-building phase that leads to a redesigned life, which is a more accurate reflection of the wo/man’s current desires and identity.
Recently I was asked “If your business was a MOVEMENT, what would that look like?” Here is my answer:
A movement to change the way we view divorce. Divorce is a family problem with a legal side effect. The court system treats it like a legal problem with a family side effect. My movement would be about the cease fire. In my opinion, during divorce – most of the time – there is no need for the legal investigation and adversarial attitude that is necessary when one is engaged in a fight with a legal opponent (like an insurance company). But, many lawyers don’t seem able to see the difference.
7 Tips For Parenting From Afar
Posted by Elinor Robin on March 30th, 2010
7 Tips For Parenting From Afar
Whether afar is across town or across the country these tips will help any parent who is not currently sleeping under the same roof as his or her children.
1. Remember that your child is a digital native. On the other hand, depending on your age, you may be an immigrant to their digital world. Use your child’s advanced knowledge of technology to keep you connected. Set up web cams on your computer and your kids’ computers. Use video mail, Skype, and YouTube to connect. Use My-space, Facebook, and Twitter to stay in touch, as long as you can do so privately and safely.
2. Watch TV together. Let your child know that you will be watching her favorite show and will be ready to talk about it.
3. Keep up with schoolwork. Give your child (and child’s teachers) pre-addressed, stamped manila envelopes so that it’s easy for them to send you updates, schoolwork, and other paperwork. If you hear nothing be sure to initiate communications with teachers by telephone and email.
4. Make audio and video recordings for your kids and encourage them to make them for you. Nothing to say? Record yourself reading a book and mail the book and the recording to your child.
5. Remember small events. Send cards, pictures and letters for Halloween, Valentine’s Day, The 4th of July, etc. Remember large events, like birthdays and Christmas. Find rituals (beyond the standard Christmas, etc) that you and your children can look forward to and celebrate each year. If possible build these rituals around an event (for instance a sporting event or a trade show) that your Ex has no interest in.
6. Make sure that your kids have cell phones with your number programmed in. Use text messages and photos to stay in touch throughout the day.
7. If you have not done so already, call a truce with your Ex. Note: Your Ex does not have to take the same action. This is the place where you are going to set the good example. Let your Ex know that from now on you are going to focus on finding solutions that work for him/her, your children, and yourself. And, then make good on that promise, no matter what it takes.
How Do Children React to Divorce? How Should a Parent Respond? An Outline Based on Maturity
Posted by Elinor Robin on December 29th, 2009
Studies concerned with the effects of divorce on children are often inconsistent, conflicting, and confusing. It is simplistic and inaccurate to think of divorce as having uniform consequences for all children. While we may not be able to predict the long term effects of divorce on children, in the short term parents should be prepared for strong reactions. Grief, guilt, sadness, resentment, hostility, self-pity, frustration, confusion, a rejection of reality, and/or a fear of the future are all normal for children in families undergoing divorce. One factor that will determine your child’s response to the divorce is his developmental maturity. This article offers some guideline as to what a parent can expect at various life stages and how a parent should respond in order to ease the divorce transition.
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Divorce Doesn’t Have to Destroy Your Kids – 50 Guidelines For Divorcing and Divorced Parents
Posted by Elinor Robin on December 29th, 2009
Divorce doesn’t have to destroy your children. This article discusses 50 tips that divorcing and divorced parents should follow to make the transition of divorce and the process of family rebuilding less damaging for their children.
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