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7 Tips For Parenting From Afar

7 Tips For Parenting From Afar

Whether afar is across town or across the country these tips will help any parent who is not currently sleeping under the same roof as his or her children.

1.  Remember that your child is a digital native. On the other hand, depending on your age, you may be an immigrant to their digital world.  Use your child’s advanced knowledge of technology to keep you connected.  Set up web cams on your computer and your kids’ computers.  Use video mail, Skype, and YouTube to connect.  Use My-space, Facebook, and Twitter to stay in touch, as long as you can do so privately and safely.

2.  Watch TV together. Let your child know that you will be watching her favorite show and will be ready to talk about it.

3.  Keep up with schoolwork.  Give your child (and child’s teachers) pre-addressed, stamped manila envelopes so that it’s easy for them to send you updates, schoolwork, and other paperwork.  If you hear nothing be sure to initiate communications with teachers by telephone and email.

4.  Make audio and video recordings for your kids and encourage them to make them for you.  Nothing to say? Record yourself reading a book and mail the book and the recording to your child.

5.  Remember small events. Send cards, pictures and letters for Halloween, Valentine’s Day, The 4th of July, etc.  Remember large events, like birthdays and Christmas.  Find rituals (beyond the standard Christmas, etc) that you and your children can look forward to and celebrate each year.   If possible build these rituals around an event (for instance a sporting event or a trade show) that your Ex has no interest in.

6.  Make sure that your kids have cell phones with your number programmed in. Use text messages and photos to stay in touch throughout the day.

7.  If you have not done so already, call a truce with your Ex.  Note: Your Ex does not have to take the same action.  This is the place where you are going to set the good example.  Let your Ex know that from now on you are going to focus on finding solutions that work for him/her, your children, and yourself.  And, then make good on that promise, no matter what it takes.

How Do Children React to Divorce? How Should a Parent Respond? An Outline Based on Maturity

Studies concerned with the effects of divorce on children are often inconsistent, conflicting, and confusing. It is simplistic and inaccurate to think of divorce as having uniform consequences for all children. While we may not be able to predict the long term effects of divorce on children, in the short term parents should be prepared for strong reactions. Grief, guilt, sadness, resentment, hostility, self-pity, frustration, confusion, a rejection of reality, and/or a fear of the future are all normal for children in families undergoing divorce.  One factor that will determine your child's response to the divorce is his developmental maturity. This article offers some guideline as to what a parent can expect at various life stages and how a parent should respond in order to ease the divorce transition.

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Divorce Doesn’t Have to Destroy Your Kids – 50 Guidelines For Divorcing and Divorced Parents

Divorce doesn't have to destroy your children.  This article discusses 50 tips that divorcing and divorced parents should follow to make the transition of divorce and the process of family rebuilding less damaging for their children.

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My Unique Mediation Practice – A Friendly Divorce – Think It’s Impossible? Think Again

Is it illogical for a family to spend its financial wealth on two attorneys whose focus is arguing over dividing whatever is left? Most thinking human being would never choose this path. But, sometimes, when people are emotionally vulnerable and feeling betrayed, rejected, and frightened, their senses leave them and they fall prey to the atrocities of adversarial divorce. A traditional/attorney-driven divorce is right for some families. But many other families would be better served by using a mediator to help them through the process of divorce.  This article discusses the mediation process we use in my unique divorce mediation practice A Friendly Divorce®.

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Kids & Divorce – What to Consider When Deciding Your Family’s Time – Sharing & Parenting Plan

In Florida we no longer use terms like "custody," "visitation," and "primary residential parent" which suggest that a child is a possession to be argued over. These terms mislead parents into thinking that ultimately one of them can win and the other can lose their children. Divorcing parents should avoid the win/lose illusion and instead focus on how they will share time with their children and what each parent will be responsible for. This article discusses ten things parents should consider before deciding on their time-sharing and parenting plans.

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