My current mediation practice centers on my work with David Spofford at A Friendly Divorce. David and I use a unique co-mediation model that offers male-female balance, an awareness of both the legal and emotional issues of divorce, and an opportunity to save financial resources and heartache. At A Friendly Divorce, we also offer document preparation services in order to help the couples we work with obtain uncontested divorces.

As a Primary Trainer with Mediation Training Group, I have taught mediation nationally and internationally to over five thousand professionals. Please consider Mediation Training Group’s offerings if you want to become a Florida Supreme Court Certified Mediator or acquire mediation skills to enhance your professional or personal life.

I am interested in personal and professional relationship dynamics and want to know what you are thinking about dating, pre-nuptials, marriage, divorce, entrepreneurship, work, partnership, and community. Please accept this invitation to expand the dialogue – email me your questions and comments.

1.  To create a pre-marital or pre-nuptial agreement, also known as a Marriage Charter.  A mediator can guide a couple’s negotiations so that they can evaluate their expectations, consider a wide variety of options, and make choices about how they want their marriage to look.

2. To create an estate plan.  Often, in both traditional and blended families, there is a lack of clarity regarding the path a family should take to distribute its resources.  A mediator can guide a family’s negotiations so that an estate plan, that takes into account each person’s wants and needs, can be created.

3.  To create a business partner’s agreement, also known as a Partnership Accord.  A mediator can guide the negotiations of potential business partners so that they can evaluate their expectations, consider a wide variety of options, and make choices about how they will operate their business.

4.  To create family agreements, also known as a Family Pact.  A mediator can guide the negotiations of family members seeking resolution with a wide variety of family issues such as curfews and budgets.

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1.  Distance counseling will continue to grow in popularity.

2.  Computer addictions of all types, including those related to pornography, shopping, and gambling, will become more problematic.

3.  Health insurance companies will continue to limit mental health services as long as regulations allow them to do so.  This practice is especially problematic in the field of addiction treatment where the trend is to increase the use of outpatient detox (seen as insufficient) and to limit outside providers (which can lead to a higher percentage of relapse).  Some practitioners believe that the insurance companies are “starving them out” and this could result in unethical behaviors and other negative consequences.

4.  If in fact we do have health care insurance reform more people will have health insurance and the insurance companies will demand that mental health professionals provide evidence based treatments.   (Evidence based treatements are mental and behavioral health interventions that empirical research has shown to be effective for specific problems.  Empirical research is based upon actual evidence, as opposed to theory or opinions, and can be replicated in follow-up studies.)

5.  Graduate schools, desperate to stay afloat, will continue to lower their standards and pump-out less qualified practitioners.

6.  Economic and other challenges will continue to create a tremendous need for psychotherapy.  Some of this need will be met by self-help groups.

7.  The general public is more aware of and open to the need for good mental health.  This trend will continue as the media continues to normalize the use of mental health services.  We will see more real people on TV with shows like Dr. Phil, Intervention, and Vh1’s Sex Rehab With Dr. Drew  as well as glimpses of relationships between fictional characters and their therapists – like Meryl Streep in It’s Complicated and HBO’s In Treatment and Tony Soprano.

8.  Like professionals in other fields, mental health practitioners who have developed niche markets, strong client and referral bases, and strong credentials will succeed.  Others will fall by the wayside.

9.  Mental health practitioners (Psychologists, Clinical Social Workers, Mental Health Counselors, and Marriage and Family Therapists) will continue to compete with Psychics (who offer a quick-fix) and Life Coaches, many of whom are better trained in marketing then psychology.  Sadly, disasters can results when clues that a client needs a more intensive mental health intervention are missed.

10.  Mental health practitioners (Psychologists, Clinical Social Workers, Mental Health Counselors, and Marriage and Family Therapists) need to put their professional and theoretical differences aside and unite their lobbies, or lose leverage in the marketplace.

11.  We all need to combine optimism with realism.   Mental health practitioners will need to incorporate positive psychology, which seeks to find and nurture genius and talent and make normal life more fulfilling.

12.  Technological advances will continue to provide us with medical interventions that seem to go against nature.  Mental health practitioners are positioned to assist families and medical ethicists in the decision-making process and the debate regarding who lives, dies, and receives services.

13.  Mental health practitioners will continue to provide the guidance and advice that was previously offered by extended family members and/or spiritual leaders.

14.  Psychopharmacological treatments, without the benefit of talk therapy, will continue to produce both addiction and drug related deaths, for those with celebrity (Heath Ledger, Brittany Murphy, Michael Jackson) and those without.

15.  Wise medical doctors will utilize mental health practitioners and incorporate the practice of narrative medicine into their practices.

16.  Media circus divorces (Jon and Kate) will continue to decline in popularity with celebrity couples choosing instead to use the confidential process of mediation to negotiate their break-ups. The public will continue to follow suit.

1. Resolve to clean out the clutter. Clutter is unprofessional and a psychic drain – blocking creative energy and new ideas. When a business’s physical space is disorganized or overcrowded it sends a negative message to staff and customers. Use ebay, or an ebay reseller like Deb Heller (tadi4again on ebay); freecycle (www.freecycle.com); or a bartner exchange (www.nubarter.com) to get rid of your extra inventory and unwanted items.

2. Resolve to tap into your existing resources. List your personal and professional resources and create an action plan outlining how you will use each of those resources during the next month, six months, and year ahead.

3. Resolve to give your website a face lift (or makeover). Your web presence should be viewed as your business’ face on the world stage. It should be a work in progress. Keep your website current and make frequent updates and revisions. Make sure your website links to your Facebook, twitter, and blog pages.

4. Resolve to reduce expenses. What worked during boom times will not work now. If it is too difficult for you to see what you can trim, sit down with someone else who doesn’t know that much about your business. Show them your expense spreadsheet. Explain where your money is going. Which expenses can you justify? Which ones seem out of line?

5. Resolve to provide exemplary customer service. Your customers are the key to your success. Can you keep your customers happy? I am amazed at how often I encounter businesses that seem oblivious to the fact that if they don’t make their customers happy there is someone else waiting for the business. Stay connected to your customers, find out what is working for them, what isn’t, and what needs you can meet.

6. Resolve to create an out-of-the-box niche. Your out-of-the-box niche is what makes you stand out from the crowd. If you don’t have a niche and nothing in your industry calls to you, start studying your industry’s past, current, and emerging market trends. Do some market research by talking to targeted customer groups and find their unmet needs. Having a niche doesn’t mean you turn away other business. You can still take that business in. But, having a niche gives you a marketing target and expert status.

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Personally, the theme for the first half of my 2009 was weddings.  Both my son and my niece got married and wedding related events kept us busy.  During the second half of 2009 my focus shifted homeward and David and I did some renovations.  It took us a long time to unpack afterwards but we are really enjoying the new look.

Professionally, as I look back on 2009 what stands out most are the wonderful people in my life.  I feel blessed by my friends and family who support me through life’s ups and downs.  And, I am grateful for the wonderful professional support team David and I have working with us:  Irma, our delightful database manager; Joyce, our efficient bookkeeper; Kurtis, our wise accountant; Paul, our brilliant business coach; and Herb and Daniele, our webmasters, whose patience and commitment made this new website possible.  I am especially grateful for those who refer clients to A Friendly Divorce.  Not only are we pleased to have new business, we are honored that so many professionals think well enough of us to recommend our service.  That’s the best compliment ever.

In addition to my continued work with A Friendly Divorce and Mediation Training Group, I have two major goals for 2010.  I will finish both my “Launch Your Divorce Mediation Practice” manual and my book “Merrily Ever After: The Bride’s Guide To Starting Your Marriage Off Right” this year   Please stay tuned.

Please know that I wish all of you a magnificent 2010 - may the New Year ahead bring you health, happiness, and abundance.

All the best,

Elinor

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