My mission is to carry the message that there is a better way to look at, and respond to, conflict. During the past 27 years, I have successfully mediated thousands of disputes and developed expertise in resolving personal and professional relationship conflicts. Today, my goal is to provide strategic conflict management and creative relationship interventions to married and divorcing couples, estranged families, business partners, communities, and co-workers.
Much of my current mediation practice centers on my work with David Spofford and the network of Florida Mediators we brought together at A Friendly Divorce. In addition to mediation, at A Friendly Divorce, we also provide document preparation services so that the couples we work with can have a one-stop experience that ends with an uncontested divorce. Additionally, David and I created a training program for professionals who want to launch or expand their practices to include pro-se/pre-suit divorce mediation. This program is presented via streaming video through Mediate.com. Cut and past this link http://www.mediate.com/university/pg29.cfm into your browser to learn more.
As a Primary Trainer with Mediation Training Group, I have taught mediation nationally and internationally to over thirteen thousand professionals. Please consider Mediation Training Group’s offerings if you want to become a Florida Supreme Court Certified Mediator, acquire mediation skills to enhance your professional or personal life, or experience Continuing Mediator Education that is both entertaining and rich in content. Check out the website to learn more about the other projects Susan Dubow and I are working on so that we can help bring mediation into the mainstream.
Please stay tuned. I am interested in learning how I can help you improve your relationships using workplace agreements, business partnership accords, dating contracts, prenuptial agreements, mediated divorces, and marriage pacts. Additionally, I am intrigued with dialogue focused on aging in community, unstructured aging, legacy, and the final third of life. Please accept this invitation to expand the conversation - email me your questions and comments.
Do you tend to avoid conflicts or face each one head-on, never taking no for an answer? Or is your typical response to conflict someplace in between these two extremes? Conflict management researchers have identified five styles that are commonly used to both resolve and temporarily manage conflicts: avoiding, accommodating, compromising, competing and collaborating. You may favor one of these styles, however knowing when and how to use all five appropriately can help you produce the best results. This article discusses each style and explains when it is most appropriate to use it.
Conflict can take a toll in our professional and personal lives. Time, money and lives are lost when conflicts are not effectively managed. Frequently, the only two options we see for handling conflict are to respond in a combative manner (fight) or totally avoid the conflict (flight/freeze/submit). Sadly, both of these strategies often do more to escalate conflict than to extinguish it. And, the opportunity to turn a conflict into a positive learning experience is lost. Almost every conflict can produce a positive benefit. However, in order to reap the benefit we typically have to navigate through some muddy waters and hold a difficult discussion. The more you know about addressing conflict the more adept you will be when it's time to engage in a difficult dialogue which is ripe with potential conflict. This article discusses considerations, concepts and strategies for holding a difficult discussion.
We all know them - those difficult people who seem motivated in the quest to spread misery. Sadly, in either our personal or professional lives, or both, each of us will periodically encounter someone who fits this description. This article defines six common categories of difficult people: The Bully, The Sniper, The Victim, The Fault-Finder, The Know-It-All, and The Cheater; and lists strategies you can use to effectively deal with these difficult people.
Think back, for just a moment, to the last time you found yourself embroiled in conflict. Can you still feel the physical sensations? Are the anger and rage still there, simmering? Much of the time, those feelings are just the surface. This article looks at looks conflict concepts that you can use to analyze and understand your own conflicts.
Elinor Robin, PhD., LMFT, LMHC is a Mediator and Mediation Trainer whose expertise is professional and personal relationship conflict. She teaches, writes, and speaks as a skilled practitioner and recognized expert in Mediation and Conflict Management. With natural wit and wisdom, Elinor brings her clients and students the benefit of her academic achievements, small business background, and extensive court system experience. Read More