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How Do Children React to Divorce? How Should a Parent Respond? An Outline Based on Maturity

Elinor Robin — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 16:36:26 +0000

Studies concerned with the effects of divorce on children are often inconsistent, conflicting, and confusing. It is simplistic and inaccurate to think of divorce as having uniform consequences for all children. While we may not be able to predict the long term effects of divorce on children, in the short term parents should be prepared for strong reactions. Grief, guilt, sadness, resentment, hostility, self-pity, frustration, confusion, a rejection of reality, and/or a fear of the future are all normal for children in families undergoing divorce. One factor that will determine your child's response to the divorce is his developmental maturity. This article offers some guideline as to what a parent can expect at various life stages and how a parent should respond in order to ease the divorce transition.

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Divorce Doesn’t Have to Destroy Your Kids – 50 Guidelines For Divorcing and Divorced Parents

Elinor Robin — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 16:30:45 +0000

Divorce doesn't have to destroy your children. This article discusses 50 tips that divorcing and divorced parents should follow to make the transition of divorce and the process of family rebuilding less damaging for their children.

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Women & Business Partnership – The Good, the Bad and the Synergy

Elinor Robin — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 21:47:18 +0000

Team sports prepare boys for the corporate model of business. Girls, however, typically play closely with one or two friends. What great preparation for entrepreneurial partnership! So it is fitting, as women continue to start businesses in record numbers, that many are finding partnership is a comfortable format. In fact, business partnership works for women coming from a wide range of backgrounds and experiences including those tired of hitting the corporate glass ceiling, stay-at-home Moms, and women who want to turn their passions and their social connections into business ideas. Partnership brings a wide variety of benefits including a sense of connection and someone to cover when you go on vacation. On the other hand, many partnerships end in crisis and conflict. This article discusses the seven components of positive partnership: Shared Values, Different (Complementary) Skills and Traits, Sense of Equity, Growing Together, Proactive Conflict Management, Shared Vision, and Exit Strategy.

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Resolutions For a Happy Marriage

Elinor Robin — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 21:25:57 +0000

Year's end is a great time to assess one's life and consider what is and is not working. If your assessment points to your marriage needing some tweaking you may want to consider making (and keeping) five resolutions for a better marriage. This article discusses the five resolutions.

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My Unique Mediation Practice – A Friendly Divorce – Think It’s Impossible? Think Again

Elinor Robin — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 18:24:22 +0000

Is it illogical for a family to spend its financial wealth on two attorneys whose focus is arguing over dividing whatever is left? Most thinking human being would never choose this path. But, sometimes, when people are emotionally vulnerable and feeling betrayed, rejected, and frightened, their senses leave them and they fall prey to the atrocities of adversarial divorce. A traditional/attorney-driven divorce is right for some families. But many other families would be better served by using a mediator to help them through the process of divorce. This article discusses the mediation process we use in my unique divorce mediation practice A Friendly Divorce®.

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Kids & Divorce – What to Consider When Deciding Your Family’s Time – Sharing & Parenting Plan

Elinor Robin — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 18:20:06 +0000

In Florida we no longer use terms like "custody," "visitation," and "primary residential parent" which suggest that a child is a possession to be argued over. These terms mislead parents into thinking that ultimately one of them can win and the other can lose their children. Divorcing parents should avoid the win/lose illusion and instead focus on how they will share time with their children and what each parent will be responsible for. This article discusses ten things parents should consider before deciding on their time-sharing and parenting plans.

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Fighting Through Divorce

Elinor Robin — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 16:14:29 +0000

Fighting serves a purpose for a divorcing couple and is a part of the process. Of course, I believe that the fight is best staged in a mediator’s office and not in a courtroom with attorney assistance. Why do couples going through divorce fight? This article outlines the six purposes the fight of divorce serves.

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Moving Through the Crisis of Divorce – What You Need to Know and Do

Elinor Robin — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 16:06:52 +0000

Divorce may be the greatest crisis of your adult life. The worst thing about divorce is that it forces us to look at ourselves, our lives, and our choices, and assess where we are and where we want to go. On the other hand, the best thing about divorce is that it forces us to look at ourselves, our lives, and our choices, and assess where we are and where we want to go. This article discusses strategies for moving through the upset of divorce.

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