I am not pro-divorce. In fact, I wish we could use pre-marital education to bring an end to divorce. However, it appears that for a variety of physical, psychological, social, and spiritual reasons that is not going to happen any time soon. So.....
When a marriage is dead, divorce can bring about a life altering transformation that propels a man or woman (a) through an assessment process and (b) into a re-building phase that leads to a redesigned life, which is a more accurate reflection of the wo/man's current desires and identity.
Recently I was asked "If your business was a MOVEMENT, what would that look like?" Here is my answer:
A movement to change the way we view divorce. Divorce is a family problem with a legal side effect. The court system treats it like a legal problem with a family side effect. My movement would be about the cease fire. In my opinion, during divorce - most of the time - there is no need for the legal investigation and adversarial attitude that is necessary when one is engaged in a fight with a legal opponent (like an insurance company). But, many lawyers don't seem able to see the difference.